Dating tips for women body language
Power poses were introduced to the world in a 2012 TED Talk by Amy Cuddy and they’ve gained massive popularity since then, probably because they’re a quick, easy way to help people feel great about themselves.All you have to do is stand like a superhero, hands on hips, for a couple of minutes. Professor Cuddy’s research showed that posing the body powerfully made people feel more confident going into high pressure situations like an interview, presentation — or date.Judi explained you tend to get one of two extremes and it depends very much on how polite they are.She said: “But when we’re dating somebody it’s normally a difficult performance for them because dates tend to be in quite a confined space, so either you’re sitting together in a bar or you’re sharing dinner together, so you’ve kind of got nowhere to go or nowhere to hide." So if they’re quite polite you might see what are known as over congruent body language rituals, and that means loads of interest in what you’re saying, lots of eye contact, lots of raised eyebrows, smiling, over congruent laughter when you saying anything remotely funny.Also look for metronomic signals such as foot tapping, drumming their fingers on the table, tapping a finger at the side of their face.
If you go for a hug and your date pulls away, you have tried to get too intimate too quickly.
Ben also recommends “smizing,” which any fan of America’s Next Top Model will remember means “smiling with your eyes” and Thomas told me that before he met his wife, he used to put on his favorite playlists to listen to in the shower before getting done up in his favorite threads in preparation for a date.
(He also used to do push-ups to get the adrenaline pumping but I won’t judge you if you want to just stick to the fun music and power poses.)Thomas’ number one tip for body language on a first date is to “break the physical barrier,” which is dating coach-speak for “touch your date.” He points out that the biggest difference between friends and partners is physicality and that the way we touch a friend differs from the way we touch a romantic prospect. Simple: Hug.“You’re not here for a meeting,” Thomas tells Bustle.
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A lot of things factor into whether or not you have a good first date, but one aspect that gets a lot of attention is body language. It’s enough to make someone put away the cocktail dress, pull out the sweats, and cuddle up with the least demanding bae, your TV.